I didn't have very much fun at it, which is depressing since I didn't pair up until my 30s.Besides, so much luck was involved in my finding my match that there are probably more alternate universes where I'm still living solo than where I'm married.As anyone who has ever used a dating app knows, the chance to have people swipe right on your face and essentially confirm your attractiveness can be more of a thrill than the prospect of a date itself.
When Sherri Shepherd spotted her ex-husband Lamar Sally's online dating profile, she had a few concerns and decided to share them publicly.
) -- I genuinely empathize with older women who feel they have being rowing the boat alone. " I like it for the same reason I have gone down many professional paths. I don't know that doing one thing for years or being with one person for years is necessarily for everyone. You can have a relationship with anyone you want and (most) people are fine with that.
I know what it's like to raise kids alone, I know that these women have sacrificed professional lives and friendships and social and financial benefits others have enjoyed.
Most of the critical comments zeroed in on how many dates I've had and not on the fact that I was being quite critical of men who are selfish and egotistical and not appreciative of women. For those who are interested, I wrote about it for Parents Magazine. When I finally started to date because I felt that at 16 and 13 the kids were old enough to deal with it, I put a toe in the water. That's why there's so many successful dating websites! Since then I've had one five-year relationship, and a handful of shorter ones. If that's being committed to being uncommitted, well then, I am guilty. We're supposed to admire couples that have been together, for many years. People over 50 seem to understand the need for private time, but are baffled by the concept that someone wouldn't want to be in a relationship.
A little background on why I've gone on so many dates might help. But why is a long relationship automatically worthy of admiration? We used to aspire to and admire people who spent decades at one company until we realized that such a career might signal stagnancy more than achievement, and that such loyalty was rarely rewarded by their employers.
But researcher Gina Ogden, in conducting her famed Isis study (a national survey of sexuality and spirituality), found that women in their 60s and 70s were having the best sex of their lives -- people need to understand that the brain is the most important sex organ in the body!